1: Never assume because we are over 40 that we are HIV-Positive or practice unsafe sex.
Young men are often the most prone to abandon safe sex in the heat of the moment, as they view the disease in a less-serious light than we do. If we are over 40 and healthy, it’s more than likely because we’ve been smart in our sexual choices and, if we are Positive, have taken care of ourselves so as not to risk our health or the health of others.
No matter our ages, let’s make one thing clear: Asking if someone is “clean” when you mean “HIV Negative” is an insult to all Positive men (the implication being that men with HIV are “dirty”). Use the word “clean” when enquiring about someone’s apartment status.
2: With age doesn’t always come maturity, and even thought we might be rich, successful and popular, we can be just as shallow and immature as anyone else.
Keep that in mind and you might be able to teach us a few things, or know when it’s wise to search for someone at your own level of growth.
3: Lady Gaga really has been copying every Madonna look, image, and video for the last several years.
Trust us on this one and move on.
4: What you perceive as a weakness in yourself, we might perceive as your strength.
It’s tough being a gay man at any age, and we’ve spent more time figuring that out and learning that it’s okay to admit your insecurities. We’re all in this together, so feel free to open up.
5: Not all men over 40 are dads, and even those who are don’t always like to be called Daddies, unless it’s by a child we’re raising.
Stay away from the label unless you know we like it, or unless you want us to send you home without supper.
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